Staying Positive

Anyone can hit a downer and it can be challenging to rise up into the sky when you’ve hit bottom. Yet, some people have a brilliant mechanism for over-coming incidents that block them from becoming what they want, from doing what they wish.

There are a few steps that I think are vital for overcoming yourself – it’s usually not the situation you’re in that’s the issue, it’s you.

So how do YOU do it?

  1. Understand that you are ultimately responsible for how you feel – not something OUT there.
  2. Accept yourself for who you are
  3. Treat yourself
  4. Note down all the things you are good at: if you can’t think of anything, think of all the good things that have ever happened to you
  5. Be grateful
  6. Look into yourself: find what irritates you, triggers negativity. Avoid.
  7. Look into yourself: find what inspires you, keeps you focused. Revisit regularly.
  8. Surround yourself with positive things and people
  9. Understand that everything comes in cycles: rain follows sunshine. There will be moments when you feel down, but the good times will return!
  10. Accept kindness from others

Remember that you are what you think!

Now, if you’re in an extreme situation – for instance an abusive relationship, the above advice may not be enough. In that instance:

  1. Get advice
  2. If your life is in danger you need help. Ask for it.
  3. If you life isn’t in danger (physically), know this: all bullies crumble before someone who sticks up for themselves
  4. If you can walk away, walk away
  5. If you can’t walk away go to number 1 – ask advice

Staying positive is something that anyone can learn. You just have to take the first step: responsibility.


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